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  1. HairyAss

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    My daughter has a new skill. I call it "becoming the devil child", but I believe it's commonly known as throwing a tantrum.

    Any strategies for dealing with them? She's 2.5..
     
  2. Leroy

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    Tazer them, obviously.

    actually I find the easiest thing to do is wait it out, its like as long as they know you're acknowledging them they will continue to have a fit. Yelling don't work, and talking to them sure don't work when they are screaming as loud as they can, so Ignoring it has shortened the tantrums for us lately. After the tantrum, comes the talk.
     
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    Oh and to add, giving in to them, bad idea.
     
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    We had no issues through 2 really to speak of, but the fits are starting at 3 now.
     
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    I ignored them.

    Unless we were out in public in which case we left where ever we were (I once left a full grocrey cart sitting in the isle :o ) and he was put on a time out when we got home.

    If he was "speaking" directly to me turing the tanturm I would only say "I can't understand you when you're crying" or if he was a little calmer, "talk to me when you can discuss it sensibly."

    I also quickly learned his tantrum ques - tired and/or hungry. If we were out and he was showing signs of either of these I would head them off before he became cranky.

    And I would have to say the best advice I was give was to not let yourself get worked up.
     
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    Yup, having a tantrum yourself doesn't solve anything.
     
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  10. HairyAss

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    Terrible Twos.
    Torrential Threes.
    Followed quickly by the Fucking Fours.

    This tantrum thing is all new to me - my son has never thrown one.

    Thanks for the advice.. we're definitely not "reacting" and trying to stay calm, which can be trying..
     
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    Im taking notes :kekeke:
     
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    My son is (almost) 1 and he just had one for the record books. He didn't want to nap. He's been protesting sleep a lot lately and seeing if he can throw a fit until we let him get up (in the past, if he wasn't ready, we let him up for a bit and it never created problems), but he's now at that "I know I can manipulate to enforce my wants" stage and I had to put a stop to it today. He threw a screaming, raging fit when I put him down for his nap, and it went on for almost an hour. I kept going in to lay him/calm him down and tell him it's sleep time (every 15mins or so), then eventually went in one final time, went for a shower and when I got out he was finally asleep. My victory was a much needed confidence boost today.
     
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    You sound a lot like me in the way you handle things. Being a nanny for so long taught me a lot of do's and don'ts, and I feel I've learned very good strategies for handling things......
    That being said, holy HELL, it's a whole new ballgame when it's your own child! Patience and willpower take on a new, and very challenging, meaning.

    Agreed 100%, but man it's difficult sometimes!! lol
     
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    This is what we learned in my 'learning' class. Extinguishing the behaviour is supposed to be effective for tantrums.
     
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    wait til they can yell back at you :kekeke: than it gets fun!
    I always have a beer supply for a reason :lol:
     
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    Last Thursday, I was trying to get my daughter ready for bed and she decided she didn't want me to change her diaper - only mommy would do. I wasn't about to give in to this (and besides, my wife was busy downstairs). It was about 20 minutes of red-faced screaming - at one point, she literally started frosting at the mouth. I wont go into the details on which body part she had her thumb stuck into so I couldn't possibly move her hands out of the way to get the diaper on.

    Oh, it's fun!
     
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    One on the most obvious things every parent should know took me a long time to learn, and that is the Kid is not the boss. With a little help from my wife I have come to learn that The adults make the rules no matter that tantrum, fit, bad attitude comes from the kid. I always took the easy road and just gave in to their demands, better than arguing with a 3 year old right? lol, no. Its hard make a child believe they are not in control after they've got their way for a while, his grandparents are the worse case of that but there is a whole other thread.
     
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    you start the thread...I'll bring the beef :lol:
     
  21. Leroy

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    lol, "Got Beef" or "Parenting 101"?
     
  22. teal

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    My son went through the torrential threes (:lol:) and was colicy as a baby but fortunatly that was it. However he has always been very strong willed and stuborn. ( can't imagne where he gets it from :kekeke: )

    The twos and fours were pretty enjoyable :lol:


    My mom calls it going into autopilot. :lol:
     
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    If I had to guess, this outburst of tantrums from my daughter has 3 "most likely" scenarios (we don't give in to her, so I don't really see that as the problem):

    1. She was sick recently - vomiting, diarrhea, the whole sche-bang. Naturally, she got a little spoiled during that. Now that she's not sick, she's not getting spoiled.
    2. I was just away in Ottawa for work for close to a week. A lot of the tantrums are specifically, "No Daddy, I want mommy to do it".
    3. She's 2.5.
     
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    I would be willing to bet a combination of all 3 things dude. I'm sure with some time she will be over it.
     
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    Just for the record, Every time I log in, I'm confused as to why Hairyass has so much to say in the "Tampons" thread.
     
  26. HairyAss

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    It's 10:45 and we're one hour into a nice little tantrum.

    FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU
     
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    :eek3: an hour? whoa shit. I can't recall a tantrum lasting that long, you must have really pissed her off :lol:
     
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    It could be a combination but I think it has more to do with reason 2. And she will get past it :)
     
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    hailey is doing the same.... when she trows a fit ill ignore her until she calms down then i will talk to her about her tantrum.
     
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    That sucks. :lol:

    My son's real tantrums were tres extreme and he would usually be so exausted after 5-20 minutes he would fall asleep......thankfully.
     
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    Yesterday was her first full day wearing big girl underwear all day.. she was fine with putting a diaper on to go to bed at bed time, but woke up later on, ripped it off and started screaming. We eventually got her back in bed, and then 15 minutes later she started crying and wanted the diaper back on..

    fun night!
     
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    agh, I hated the transition from diapers to underwear! I hated it even more with the kid!
     
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    It was pretty easy going with my son, although it took a while.

    My daughter likes to make things... difficult.
     
  34. Leroy

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    I think its a woman thing
     
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    I agree. 100%
     

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