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Discussion in 'Reality Check' started by Kimvisible, Dec 10, 2021.

  1. Kimvisible

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    Ok wtf?

    My life goal was to meet a partner organically. Apparently you have to leave your house for that..

    so I find myself on the online search...seriously, has anyone had luck?

    any suggestions? after being super sick for 3 years I am back on the horse!!!


    Guys: what profile catches your eye? any single friends? I cant do this online thing


    oh and hellllllllllllloooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
     
  2. Grifter

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    First suggestion is say is you definitely have to leave your house. Online is all well and good... But you're gonna have to go on a date at some point.... :lol:
     
  3. Kimvisible

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    lol

    If you saw the shit females see
     
  4. J0e Th0rnton

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    I never have and never will believe in the online dating world. I always believed in meeting people out and about, whether for a hookup or for serious dating. Most common places to meet them were bad ones according to most, including: Work and the pubs.

    but it worked since I am married with kids lol.
     
  5. Matt30

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    Met my wife on RC :shrug: :lol:

    This place gotta have at least one match left!

    I can’t imagine meeting someone new these days without some sort of online platform. What about trying a new hobby and maybe meeting someone that way? Although with all the restrictions we have dealt with and the new ones on the way, that’s gonna get way harder too.
     
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  6. David Puddy

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    My advice would be to start doing more group activities. You'll always meet a better caliber of person in a non threatening environment or a place thats not designed for people meeting. Start volunteering and start new hobbies...more hobbies always leads to meeting new people.
     
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    I am not single and can't imagine having to go through dating and all that again but here is my take
    I hate going out, absolutely hate it, but I do it now just because I have to get out of the house I have started doing the some of the shopping I am not getting all dressed up I wear my old shop pants and hoodie and there are still some very chatty ladies out there in the Costcos baking supply isle :lol: Just sayin
     
  8. RoryTate

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    There you have it Kim, lurk in the Costco baking supply aisle, you'll meet Mr. Bake. :)
     
  9. HairyAss

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    Pro tip: they weren’t looking for a date.
     
  10. Grifter

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    I haven't posted about it. But I am finalizing a divorce. Been a rough year. We have been separated over a year... Still lived together until June but in separate areas of the house. Just grew apart. Couldn't make it work anymore. Sucks. Didn't want it. Did everything to avoid it. But I guess people just sometimes grow apart. :shrug2:


    I took some time for me to make sure I was good and the kids were good. They will always come first. But I got back into the dating world a little over a month ago. Couldn't do the bar thing myself. Feel like anyone I meet at a bar who's looking to meet someone... just isn't there for the right reasons??? I mean... I know what I was looking for when I was younger and looking to "meet girls at a bar".... Plus I just turned 37. :lol: I'm way past that.

    I've been seeing a girl now and it's going well. We met on *SHUDDER* Facebook dating. (Steve, I give you full permission to jump on that one...) but it was way better than tinder or POF. Downloaded those and within an hour of each... Nope!

    But I do agree with the advice of mutual friends. At least you know you're not getting roped into anything bad. If you are, they aren't your friends. Facebook dating...i went on a couple bad dates but the girl I went on the last date with and I have seemingly clicked. Going well so far. We both are single parents... Both want the same things... Not looking for hookups or casual shit. Just looking for someone to talk to and get to know and see where it goes. Can't really put that into your tinder or POF profile cause those folks be nuts! :lol:
     
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  11. KMD

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    Pro tip: First what makes you a fucking PRO :lol2:I wasn't looking a date but just pointing out that they were chatty and again ...
    Pro Tip: Stalking me in a singles thread, what did I tell you about the homosexual stuff on here, keep it between you and BootsBoots I am not interested.
    I know I am one handsome mother fucker but please I love my wife and I will not send you any pictures so stop asking. :nuts:
     
  12. HairyAss

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    Nice job putting yourself back out there - I can't imagine it was easy to get your head around that!
     
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    rcers smooching on each other? Disgusting
     
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    I actually went n a date last night with a guy from Fb dating!
     
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    bring out the web
     
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  16. Grifter

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    10 years. Definitely not something that I liked the idea of. But after time and accepting the cards on the table... I'm enjoying it now.
     
  17. billybob

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    Get a dog and hit up the dog parks. Money money.


    Also, hello Kim
     
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  18. billybob

    The Schooner, the better.

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    Oh and I stalked my wife on Twitter. Worked great actually.
     
  19. C. Mike Hunt

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    Am I the only one on here who's never seen it? :(
     
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    you're not missing much, most of the people don't even post anymore and it was just a mess of lines.. also I never was never on it lol
     
  21. STYLINator

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    3 years in rehab......that must of been hell, you and Carl might as well get hitched. Two peas in a pod!!!
     
  22. Wayne

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    Nope... don't remember seeing it either
     
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    One, wtf are you talking about rehab? The girl had legitimate health problems. Get your facts together.

    Two..... Keep my name out of your mouth Jerome. I haven't so much as thought about you in 10 years, so don't make me start now.
     
  24. Kimvisible

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    Jerome? I haven't thought of you since I deleted you from Facebook for your racist rants. 10 years ago.

    want to spit facts? I am proud of myself. I had a bit of a drug problem, told my parents they helped me get clean. Haven't touched it in 8 years. I actually don't drink either, 3x a year. I actually know what true relationships and friends are now.

    When was the last time you railed a line? How is your second failed marriage? Saw you on POF..you mistyped 2 instead of 3 kids. :)

    Pottie and I have been there for each other through a lot of shit, he is and always will be a close friend. I know you are such poison, you don't have any, so I understand how this is confusing..

    I'm 41 now, so you are 50? trying to call me out? hahahaa remember an old poker phrase " If you don't know who the sucker at the table is.."
     
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    Good for you, that must have taken a lot to admit to having a problem, even more to do something about it.
     
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    Good for you. Much respect.
     
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    Hey, some drama on here that isn't about covid or politics! Feels like old times! :lol:
     
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    Congrats on getting sober - that’s fantastic! It’s a journey where you learn more about yourself than you ever thought possible. I’m 10 months off alcohol, 10 of the best months of my life.
     
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    But at what cost? Look at who it brought back
     
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    snippet of old rc...
     
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    KimvisibleKimvisible I met my husband through Instagram. Well kind of, I was friends with his brother and he asked me if I remembered his brother from high school. I followed him, he messaged me and I've been with him ever since!
     
  32. Scott

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    Good for you.

    also...you quoted him :ohnoes:
     
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  33. Kimvisible

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    thanks guys for the support. They forget to tell you how lonely it is. If you know anyone getting sober, be there for them, its a long lonely journey
     
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    Bro…..dont
     
  35. HairyAss

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    Watch Single Drunk Female on Hulu for an amazing depiction of recovery - incredibly well done and funny to boot (I assume it's available in Canada). Only 3 episodes in so far. The first episode especially... holy crap.

    Recovery doesn't have to be lonely but you need to be willing to get our of your shell. I've joined a few groups and while it's all virtual, it's a great network - I'm chatting with folks daily and joining video calls a couple times a week. I've even met a few folks in person - went down to California and ran a marathon with a good sober friend I'd made - she's recently divorced and trying to figure out dating in the sober world as well, though - that's not the easiest for sure!
     
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